day 13 – connection

Welcome to day thirteen of 28 days of Self-Love.

Let’s continue to cultivate the habit of Self-Love through creativity, breath, and gratitude.

connection.  |kəˈnekSH(ə)n|
a relationship in which a person, thing, or idea is linked or associated with something else.

“Happiness is only real when shared.” —Christopher McCandless (Into the Wild)

If you haven’t read this book or seen the film the quote will seem almost contradictory upon first glance in regard to a Self-Love program. However, it is through this man’s extreme quest for introspection and understanding of self that he realizes in the end, if we have no one to share this happiness “we’ve cultivated” with, then it is in a way all meaningless. I feel the unspoken message is of connection and balance.


  • Music Inspiration: Gary Jules (cover) – Mad World


  • Day 13 Exercise: Connect with People

The world is growing, expanding, and teeming with life. And now more than ever before it seems as if life is pulling us in every possible direction. Constant external stimuli vying for our rapt attention which makes connecting with one another even more important.

We now have the ability to connect with souls all over the planet as well as locally in our hometowns. I have had the privilege of “meeting” many people via personal websites and online apps that have contributed greatly to my writing and personal growth as a human. And through this journey, I have supported and been supported. I have pen pals and friends all over the world now that are of like mind and have contributed to my health and well-being. Connection is important, both in person and via written word or voice.

My point to this is I have learned so much by connecting with different types of people with varying backgrounds and belief systems. I have been able to exchange gifts and tokens or support other artists in their pursuits which in turn, brings happiness back into my own life. In reference to the above quote, sometimes by cultivating happiness and paying it forward, it miraculously makes the happiness within more real. Grounded. Alive. Connected.

So take a few moments out of your day and think about all the people in your life be it in your town or people you have met around the world. Then select one or two (you feel need a little extra something) and think of some small way that you can help impact their life for the good today. Maybe they sell their art or crafts, or books, or creations online and you can support them and their craft by buying a piece of their work. Or maybe you know a small trinket or handwritten note might lift their spirits so you send one off or hand deliver, if local. Or maybe you just sit down face-to-face and share conversation with someone to reconnect.

I was gifted a book, Poem Crazy, by one dear friend I met online years ago, and have gone on to make the same purchase and send it on to others. This little gem has so many wondrous creative ideas within and every time I pick it up I think of this dear woman. I also have art, magazines, books, and notes, displayed in my office, created by and/or gifted from others that help remind me of the beauty of connection.


  • Day 13 Create: Blackout Poem

Look through your home or office and find an old book or magazine that you were planning on throwing away or donating. (If you can’t find anything that will work for this find a used bookstore and pick up an old book for cheap.) I have an old paperback I read years ago and was never going to reread again that I have dedicated to this. I keep this book by my bedside and doodle periodically creating all sorts of Blackout Poems with a sharpie. This is an ongoing creative exercise for me.

You could choose to do the same or just find an old magazine to create a one-time blackout for this challenge. The above link has some tips and tidbits about blackout and is really just another form of found poetry like we learned about on day 4.

Austin Kleon has all kinds of books and inspiration on his site about blackout, if you would like to explore further.

So grab a book or some other printed material and start blacking it out marking it up and creating!


Here is my creative work as a result of today’s exercise:



pg 139-140 of Poem Crazy

Blackout Poem: (I will try to upload a pic later-but here is the resulting poem below)

poem poems
make art
collect scraps of conversations
between broken
“could have been”
and nourish what you find

Love and Ink,

I invite you to share your poems in the comment section below or link to a blog or personal website. Read and comment on others. Introduce yourselves. Get involved. I’m excited to see what all you lovely souls have created.

Time to check in:

  • Have you been mindfully breathing?
  • Running gratitude?
  • How’s your self-talk?

Now smile for all your gratitude and the creativity you’ve cultivated today! See you back here tomorrow with another day of Self-Love.

17 thoughts on “day 13 – connection

    1. Hope all are feeling better, sending light and love for healing.

      Absolutely love your poem! These are the best kind to me something completely nonrelated that becomes a message. “We want to be happy, which is non-refundable.” This line is killer!

    1. We all fall behind. Keep going. Just right where you are. (Look how behind I was on commenting. Even I’m catching up.) Remember your best is always changing and sometimes our best is recognizing our shortcomings and accepting them. You are amazing. Keep it up!

      1. oh Grace you are so right. And so aptly named. Your mother must have been very wise.

  1. Here’s the blackout poem I found on p. 58 of Viktor E. Frankl’s Man’s Search For Meaning. I cheated on this because I could not black the page out ( i love this book 😉) so what I did was to find the words and wrote it down. I am terribly behind but I am committed to finishing this journey. #28daysofselflove 😘❤️

    between hope and despair
    morning dawned in those last hours
    fate, life and death were taken
    locked in apathy

  2. Carmel-by-the-Sea
    the perfect place to unwind
    where time has stood still
    amid salty sea air and
    abundance of old world charm

    (Tanka from vacation article Newsmax Sept. 2017)

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